Who Gets What Is Complicated When It Comes to the Kids
There is nothing more complicated in a divorce than custody. When it comes to your kids, nothing is easy because you are talking about people with needs, feelings, and emotions. It is not just about what you and your spouse want, but what the children want and more importantly, what is best for them. A judge has a hard job in trying to determine what that could be, and as a parent, you have an important role to play in it.
You Cannot Divide Kids Like Furniture
Most people will talk about custody in days and hours, holidays, weekends, etc. This is necessary because there must be clearly established schedules that everyone can live by. This is understandable, but it is not possible to divide kids like that. There will be daily activities where both parents may be involved or one parent may be better suited for participating in. For example, if one of your kids loves to play tennis and one parent has been a coach, will you try to stop having that parent be involved in their child’s sport when it is not the right custody day? These are the types of questions that need to be asked and dealt with in order for your child to have a healthy and normal transition from being part of one larger family to two smaller ones.
Consider Their Education
One important aspect of a custody situation is ensuring that the children are able to maintain consistency in their education. This is why the courts will often award primary custody to the parent who is still living in their same school district or family home. Whenever possible, the court will keep children in their same school. Think this through when making plans for where you want to live during the separation and after the divorce.
Think to the Future
Remember that you and your spouse are going to be in each other’s lives until your children turn 18. Yes, you will see each other occasionally after that, but until they get out of high school, you will need to make decisions together. You will even need to see each other at things like sporting events, school plays, and graduations. This is important for the wellbeing of your children. Knowing that, at the Law Office of Laurence J. Brock, we do our best to ease tensions during the divorce, take away some of the pressure, and work toward resolution whenever possible. Even though it may take time, establishing a mutually cordial (it does not need to be friendly) relationship with your ex-spouse will be in the best interest of your children.
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Are you getting divorced? What custody plan did you and your spouse establish, and how is it working out?