What to Watch Out for When Divorcing a Narcissist 

The process of divorce is rough under the best of circumstances, but when one of the parties has narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), the process is likely to turn nasty. 

Narcissists can’t be reasoned with because they lack empathy for others, even for their own children. They believe the world revolves around them, and they will do anything to avoid damage to their reputations. 

They care so much about what people think of them, they will do almost anything to mold others’ perceptions, even throwing you and any children from the marriage in harm’s way. 

You can’t change the fact that your ex is a narcissist, but you can watch out for behaviors that can make the divorce process tougher than you can even imagine. You can’t control how your ex behaves, but you can control how you behave and how you react. 

Read on for information on what to watch for when divorcing a narcissist so you’ll be ready when issues come up during divorce proceedings.

Watch Out for These Behaviors When Divorcing a Narcissist

Below are some of the main things to watch for when you are going through a divorce with someone who has narcissistic personality disorder.

Unwillingness to Compromise

Narcissists believe that they are 100 percent right about everything. They can’t be convinced otherwise, so you don’t want to even bother trying. The best thing you can do when dealing with a narcissist is to have an attorney deal with them on your behalf. Your attorney can protect you and your interests during this difficult time.

Charming Lies

A Narcissist can be charming, and they will try to get everyone over to their side. They will try to convince anyone who has a role in the case. Sometimes, they will even try to charm the kids to speak out against you. You know that the charm is all an act, but others likely don’t. You shouldn’t even play these games. Let your lawyer expose the lies.

Fierce Determination to Win

Narcissists view divorce as some kind of game, and they absolutely hate losing. They hate losing in any area of their lives, and the divorce process is no different. They are determined to beat you in whatever way they can, and they aren’t afraid to use underhanded tactics to win. 


The best thing you can do when divorcing a narcissist is document everything. Seriously, everything. Then you might want to partner with a divorce lawyer who understands and can identify the behaviors of a narcissist. Your lawyer will be able to point out these behaviors to a mediator or to a judge. 

A narcissist isn’t going to play fair, so you can’t trust that they will be reasonable with any aspect of your divorce.

Reach Out to a Divorce Lawyer Near You

Yes, your divorce is going to be a challenge if you’re divorcing a narcissist, but a divorce attorney at The Law Office of Laurence J. Brock can help. Call 909-466-7661 or fill out the internet contact form below to speak to an attorney near you.

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