The New Year Is a Good Time to End a Bad Marriage
If you feel like you’re stuck in a bad relationship, 2017 may be the year to make a change. Now that the holidays are over, it’s the perfect time to consider what you want out of life. What do you want going into the new year and can it happen within the confines of your current marriage? For many couples, the answer is unfortunately no.
While there is no perfect time to get a divorce, starting the process at the beginning of the year does have several benefits. First, people are mentally and emotionally conditioned to anticipate change when the new year comes. Whether the changes are large, like ending a relationship, or smaller, like losing weight, people anticipate that there will be adjustments to lifestyle, perspective, or relationships. This means that you may be more mentally and emotionally prepared to end a bad relationship today then you will be six months from now. Your mental preparedness, even subconsciously, can influence how well you handle a divorce.
Additionally, divorces take time to complete. It will take time for you to separate property, file for divorce, have hearings, go to court, and so on. It is not uncommon for a divorce to take six months to a year to complete. Starting one now will give you the opportunity to wrap everything up in 2017 so that you can begin 2018 with a new life and a fresh perspective.
Why Is It Good to End a Bad Relationship?
As a family law firm, we would never tell you what is right for your unique marriage. Whether you stay or leave is entirely up to you. However, there is scientific research to support ending a bad relationship. Researchers at Michigan State University studied 1,200 men and women over five years. They found that women in a bad marriage were at a greater risk of experiencing heart disease. In other words, a bad marriage really can break your heart.
A bad relationship can also cause enormous amounts of stress that can lead to anxiety, depression, and feelings of despair and hopelessness. This is not a good way to live!
To start 2017, you most likely have already made a resolution or two. How much more difficult will they be to uphold if you are fighting these negative emotions?
The Process of Getting Divorced
While you make the decision to end your marriage and get a divorce, it is important to understand how the process works and what you should expect. First, you should call our office and speak with a divorce attorney. Your former spouse is likely to retain his or her own attorney, so it is necessary to protect yourself by securing your own legal representation.
There are also a number of pitfalls that you might fall into if you don’t have a family law attorney looking out for your best interests. For example, if you want to have custody of the kids, you should remain in the family home. If you are worried that your spouse may try to cut you off financially, you can open a credit card in your own name and even open a separate savings account. These are things that we can discuss during your free consultation.
Once you have retained an attorney, the separation process can begin with the initial case filing and proceed on to negotiations, possibly going to trial later—if it becomes necessary. While a complex process, at the end of your divorce, you will be free of the negativity that is currently surrounding your marriage.
Contact a Rancho Cucamonga Divorce Attorney
To speak with a family lawyer about your options, call the Law Office of Laurence J. Brock at 909-466-7661 or complete the contact form below. Divorcing is a difficult decision to make, but starting 2017 by ridding yourself of a dysfunctional marriage could improve your life later and even open up new opportunities for happiness.